When You Say No To Your Purpose

What will happen if you don’t become who you are supposed to become?

Have you ever thought about that?  Like, really pondered that question.  What will happen to everyone you are supposed to impact if you let fear or doubt hold you back from becoming who you are meant to be?

One of the things I love about coaching is being able to experience real time a-ha moments in my clients lives.  Several times today the notion of living your purpose came up.  It got me to thinking, when we say no to who we are supposed to become, we aren’t just saying no for ourselves.  In fact, we are saying no to every single person we are meant to influence, impact, grow, develop, or mentor.  I’m in the midst of reading Onward, by Howard Schultz, CEO of Starbucks.  It’s the story of how he took back the reigns as CEO to rebuild the company.  (Great read by the way!) Howard and his team face hurdle after hurdle, and challenge after challenge.  And let’s face it, he didn’t need to return as CEO.  He could have rested on his laurels…and huge piles of cash…happily in retirement.  But instead, he knew his story, and subsequently Starbucks’ wasn’t finished yet.  In chapter 33 he tells the story of a partner (that’s what they call their team members…and for the record I love it!) in China who began her career at Starbucks as a barista and rose to the level of store manager.  Schultz was attending an open forum (their language for town hall meeting) when the woman, Helen, was publicly lauded and rewarded for being the store manager of the quarter.  He goes on to say that not only was Helen surprised, but she was even more stunned when it was announced that she was being promoted to district manager.  Several years prior to this, Helen had moved from her small village to become a barista.   What struck me about Helen’s story is the fact that if Howard Schultz had not become who he was meant to become, Helen would never become who she was meant to become.

Think about it.  Every time you say no to your dreams, purpose, and passion, you are automatically saying no for other people.  It could be your spouse, children, friends, colleagues, someone halfway across the country, or even on the other side of the world.  And I get it, fear and doubt are strongholds.  Living in the comfort zone and minimizing risk is so much easier! But next time you say no to becoming the person you are meant to be, remember that if you don’t become who you are supposed to be, someone else might not become who they are supposed to be.

How does that sit with you?


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